When Love and relationships collide

                                           When Love and relationships collide
                                                               by

                                                    Apurva Malewar

With the recent advancements to the book am writing, a biography on the common man,

I stumbled upon a few areas where people talk about relationships and love, and how they deal with it.

I gave it quite a thought and decided I’d cover this, as many fan mails that I get,  request that I write a few lines on relationships. So here it is, for my fans, my book will feature a few stories about people and relationships.

I wonder what relationships are made of, when I look upon my own life and the lives of others around me; it’s a mixture of complete happiness and impeccable pain. The profound brutality for a few people, who really are neglected in relationships, does emotionally kill them.

People who are in relationships in my opinion, am talking with regards to maturity, deal with a basic concept of sharing joys and sorrows, being there for each other, and totally unconditional.

Most of us follow the path of un- conditional giving, the path of bringing a smile on the faces of our loved ones, the path of making them happy. Seldom do we look upon what we need or is expected. As long as there is a smile that exists upon our miserable faces that’s all that we need.  We don’t really need the moon. But hell, we sure would try getting one.

I sometimes wonder with the lot of relationships that I see people endure; they become the focus of enduring sadness by neglect. It shows that they aren’t happy, yet can’t do without the emotional bond that binds them to the ones they love, and in some cases blinds them.

Any relationship in my opinion is giving, it is not luxuries, material things, expensive gifts, these measly items become a consolation prize, but the real prize is one peace of mind, two knowing for a fact that you are loved by someone, and that is what that counts.

Mere words do not compensate of actions, anyone can talk, and really talk good. Actions speak louder than words, but hey, who is asking anyone to go out of their way. Do what you can, it’s a relationship. It’s not a military camp where you are bound by rules, that suggest time, place and  methods of dealing with your loved ones.

Relationships are easy, as long as there is understanding, yes, one has to make sacrifices, endure compromises, but then again, it’s not like you can’t give, what your loved one wants or needs.  Bringing a little smile won’t hurt, it goes a long way. This, I guess is an unsaid truth, not many realize the power of joy. Some can’t make time, some can’t bring in a smile, and I guess that’s alright as long as they still love you.

They don’t realize how much farther they are pushing you away from them. Even when you show them signs of pain, agony, distress, when they can’t read between the lines. It implies that one does not really care. I can be wrong and I hope I am, but for those out there, this logically seems more apt.

It’s sometimes sad to see that relationships are just there, with no method of portraying love. When you can’t give love or show love, in any form, how can one expect the other person to understand or feel it?

I don’t get the fact that some people, say they are bad with relationships, yet there are no signs of them trying to make a difference.

Sorry being the ultimate word of solace, I wonder???

Guys this is our lives, I wonder do we really need to endure this. If in love, then make sure it lasts for eternity, as long as there is love there is hope. But, then again, the day you realize that love is verbal, and actions pending on its resurrections, you will know what to do.

Am not here to preach what is to be done, I’d follow my instincts and probably disappear, never to be seen again. But I would try hard, and try until I can’t do it anymore.

So god bless and god speed for you all out there.